|
  |
|
|
What would you do if your teenage daughter got pregnant?
By Bing Aranzanso
In one of my blog posts, On Daughters Getting Pregnant, I shared my thoughts on the possibilities of daughters getting pregnant unexpectedly. This is not highly unlikely. More and more teenage pregnancies are happening. But what would you do if your teenage daughter comes home and announces that she is pregnant? Will you stop her from going to school in retaliation to what she's done to you, hurting your feelings? Will you hurt her physically after learning? As I had written in my blog that I would not let my daughter stop schooling if that happens, I thought of another set of possibilities if I do the opposite: *She will become an individual who will not be able to achieve anything of worth because of insecurity and disappointment about herself.
*She will not be a good mother when other people will provide for her daughter's needs.
*She will not have a sense of accomplishment.
*She will not be able to make amends for the wrong that was done. After all, nobody and nothing could undo it.
*She will not possibly be a better person. It would not be an easy predicament when a teenage or young daughter that still goes to school suddenly become pregnant. It entails a lot of considerations to ponder: *Can the father of the child be able to provide for the pregnancy, the hospitalization and the child's need after delivery? Who will provide for these needs if he cannot?
*Is the father a young teenager, too? Will his parents be willing to help?
*Where can you get help about the whole situation when you yourself could not make ends meet for the family?
*What will you tell your daughter about the whole situation and how you feel? No matter what it takes, parents should always be there for their children. We do not need to verbalize it (we can get abused doing it) because they will see the good things we parents are doing. As long as we can help, it is our duty to act as parents and help bring forth the goodness in each child.
|
|
 |
|
PLEASE VISIT THE CONTRIBUTOR'S WEBSITE
No reactions yet.
Please login or sign up to rate this intel.
Please login or sign up to add a comment.
|
|
|
This is such a huge topic that it's difficult to start but I'd definitely keep her from school - for everybody concerned - and have her study from home.
after breaking his legs you mean?
"Will you stop her from going to school in retaliation to what she's done to you, hurting your feelings?" This question high-lights why so many daughters are scared to tell their parents if they become pregnant. It is natural to be disappointed that your teaching was not enough to prevent the event but this idea that something has been done to you is absolutely absurd. Parents allow their daughters to be exposed to the running sore of commercial life and the various additional pressures that are inevitable as they enter puberty and their teens. Parents turn a blind eye to situations that could be dangerous on the basis that 'she is a good girl' but do not offer the close care and parental counselling that is so helpful to a young lady. Parental support should be such that the child will always be able to seek information from the parent - unfortunately, far too many parents will not offer the answers to some basic questions about sexuality because they have never fully explored their own. The following exchange sums it up:-
Daughter - "Mom. I'm pregnant"
Mom - "How could you!!"
Teenage girls have gotten pregnant throughout history. I can't imagine that this will ever change. It's not the end of the world and in Canada, the girl would be expected to continue attending school. By the way, I was talking to my cousin a while ago. She had a teenage pregnancy many years ago. And she said, "How can I regret that it happened when today I have a lovely son and grandchildren to show for it." That kind of puts things in perspective, doesn't it?
Thank you for sharing these thought provoking questions, Bing. Back in the 1950's, many young catholic girls who got pregnant were sent to a catholic home for wayward girls, they had the baby and then the baby was put up for adoption. The father of the child, the girl and the parents all got to hide their responsibilities behind the skirts of the church.
Not the right answer!!!
Best wishes.
Frederick
A serious problem as this, involving one's own child is very trying. Being distraught emotionally, parents may feel like angrily threatening the wayward one; but this might only embitter her. We must bear in mind that the future of this young person may depend on how she is treated during this critical time. Then, especially, the young person needs help. If the parents remember that they are dealing with an inexperienced youth, they will more easily resist the tendency to overreact. The daughter will need special help and skillful direction.
The copyright for this content entitled "What would you do if your teenage daughter got pregnant?" has been specified by the contributor as:
Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 3.0
Details 
This content may be copied and distributed (but not modified), as long as a) it's for non-commercial use and b) the original author is acknowledged with a link back to the content page.
If you use this content according to the license specified, you must link to the following URL:
http://bingskee.qondio.com/
|
|
|
This intel was contributed by Bing
Bing
|
May, 2012
2008
January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December
2009
January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December
2010
January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December
2011
January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December
2012
January, February, March, April, May
|
|
Not a member yet?
Qondio is a powerful network for making it online. If you have a website to
promote, we can help.
Sign up and get in on the action.
|
|
Welcome to Qondio! Discover the awesome power this network can deliver by going to our About page. Or you could skip straight to the Sign Up form.
|
|
