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The Measure - How do you measure success?
By Bing Aranzanso of Warmstone
My husband, who is unemployed due to illness, one day told me that “what a waste that he did not have the chance to do something to be successful”. He verbalized it with melancholy that was not obvious because he is always a person of gaiety. I answered that it all depends on a person what success means, it is on one’s state of mind. And I meant what I said. Generally, people associate success with the sum of money a person has, with the number of influences he has, with the plenitude of properties and with the band of friends in his circle. I begged to disagree. Success is success even without those enumeration. The definition of success as a “favorable outcome” appeals more to me than the second definition as “ gaining of fame, wealth, etc.” It is favorable outcome to me if I have succeeded to overcome my insecurities, if I have triumphed over the challenges of womanhood (or manhood), if I have won souls to God with my deeds and character, if I have molded the young to responsibility, and the like. A lot of my friends and acquaintances, including my husband, believe otherwise. Success is money, fame and influence, they gathered. And I am a fool for them to believe on the contrary. But I can not blame them, it is their culture and one should not demean them for their beliefs. I was once like them at some points in my life especially when in misery. The misery that I have sustained, like Marius Pontmercy (in Les Miserables), had ‘developed me in a wretched fashion but sufficient for existence.’ That is success for me. I agree that people can do great deeds in the small struggles of life (still a success for me). My husband still believes, I perceived, that the measure of success is having a lot of the tangible things in life. I am not aware if how I responded the other day has taken an effect on his person. Maybe, or maybe not, he thinks I am pretending to be virtuous… what gain do I have for being hypocrite, anyway?
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From my personal experience, I can tell you that you are right and your husband is wrong. Material success is unattainable, because you never have enough. Every time you reach what you thought is the peak, you find out that there is more mountain behind it. The more material possessions you accumulate, the more you want. After you upgrade from an apartment to a house, you start wanting a bigger house, then a hacienda, then an entire office tower in Makati. After you start hanging out with the mayor, you start wanting to hang out with congressmen, then senators, then the president, then the president of more important countries... It just never ends.
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i am sorry this is a late reply. i have just been in Qondio again recently. you are so right. we do not get contented easily.
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